So in rebuilding our relationship, The Mr and I have turned to our
church for guidance and counseling. We've been given some honest and real talk on what it is to be married and maintain a Christian marriage and through this we've been able to honestly talk about things we were keeping to ourselves that helped in widening the crack in our friendship. Recently, I found a great
blog that hit on what EXACTLY was the glitch in our marriage: the 3 Ps.
The author's mother gave her this advice on her wedding day and I wish someone told me these things on ours but it's so timely and God sent at this moment that I had to share it.
Plan, Pray, and Play Together!
Every couple should share their 5 year plan and update that plan together. Of course, life happens and some plans get changed, canceled, or postponed but we should always see it together, understand it together, and work to getting to our individual and joint goals together, and be sensitive to each other when things don't work out as planned. This is my best friend, he should be included in my plans-as far fetched as they may be sometimes, but in excluding your spouse you put yourself in a position to feel "all alone" in the relationship. Your fault, not his! ::eye opener for me::
- Lesson #1: You are a TEAM! Plan together and see it through TOGETHER.
- Lesson#2: A man's pride is way more vulnerable than any woman's emotion.
When we started out and even in the very beginning of our marriage, God was the true center of our relationship. We prayed together and about almost every major decision in our relationship, including this marriage but somewhere along the lines this got lost. Time to GET IT BACK! He put us together, He's kept us so far, why leave Him out? Obviously, we can't do this on our own. A major plus, when Chunks see his parents turning to the Lord in this, he too will follow.
- Lesson#3: There are 3 people in a marriage: The Husband, The Wife, and God. No moves should be made unless the 3 speak first!
- Lesson#4: Pray, Pray, Pray without ceasing!
Play together! The Mr and I are truly best friends, we could hang anywhere, with anyone, or do absolutely nothing but watch movies all weekend and have a GREAT time! Between our schedules, tending to Chunks, and everything else, this too fell to the side. We both saw it happening but just thought it would "work" itself out and we'd get back to normal. NOT SO! As hard as we're working to move up in society, we need to work on keeping each other happy. Remember who we were before the name change and spend time with those people every now and then.- Lesson #5: Remember who you were before you got married and let those people hang out.
- Lesson #6: Thank You's go a LONG way. Just acknowledging the little things make a world of difference.
What are some things you've learned since becoming a wife or through your long term relationship?
3 comments:
Do the right thing, and hold my tongue even when I don't feel like it. I recently read the Power of a Praying Wife again for like the hundredth time and this time I picked up the fact that even when I don't feel like it or if I feel he has wronged me I should be an example and do the right thing. I'm not saying I do it every time, but I have started to think more before I react and speak and that has helped us tremendously in resolving issues. I love Lesson #6, we forget to be polite and let the ones we love know how much we appreciate them. I have to implement this one. Thanks for sharing!!
i like the idea of the 3 P's. Now putting it into action is another story. I'm going to check out that blog........
@Mimi I need to get that book! Lord, this week alone I'm getting better with not speaking everything that comes to mind (which was a prob for the Mr.) @Rose'sDaughter, it's a pretty nice blog and I'm working on putting it to action (IT AIN'T EASY!!!)
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